Cyber Crimes… Cyberbullying …

Cyber Crimes… Cyberbullying …

The Internet is a wonderful thing and the sort of invention that we all wish we had when we were at school. Revising for tests and completing homework would have been so much easier with sites like Wikipedia and Google to help us out. Staying in touch with our friends would also have been so much easier had we been able to use Facebook and Twitter.



Of course, with the immediacy that these websites offer, come the inherent dangers too. Safety online is of paramount importance and it's vital to realize that just because someone claims to be one thing, such as a friend or teenager, they may not necessarily be so.

The instant nature of the Internet also means that you can reach people within seconds, and they can reach you “whether you want them to or not. This has helped in many ways, but has also caused problems with an increase of bullying. Online bullying is known as Cyberbullying, and is just as big a problem as bullying at school or on the street. In fact, Cyberbullying can be worse because the bullies can reach you wherever you are.

If someone you do not want to speak to is attempting to bully you online you should block all contact with them. Remove them from Facebook, adjust your privacy settings so they can't contact you and never contact them. Block them from chat programs such as MSN and Yahoo as well. If you ignore Cyberbullies, they will give up as they will have no way of bullying you. If you have given out any personal details, be sure to tell an adult and change your mobile and email address if need be.

I have read many stories where people who were bullied online actually experienced some very negative consequences.

It is almost as dangerous as being bullied in person and many people say that it is worse. It is imperative that parents all over the world are aware that cyberbullying exists. It is important that we take cyberbullying seriously and that if it is happening to someone that you know or your child that you do something about it.

It may be worse. It is devastating to know that the victims of cyberbullying experience many similar effects as children who are bullied in person, although cyber bullying is more extreme to victims due to various factors:
* People say things online that they may not say in real life. The element of being behind a computer screen may give bullies a sense of power and this may make them go to verbal extremes.
* The damage is far reaching. Children can send emails saying nasty things about someone else and send it to their entire class, or alternatively post it on a website for the entire world to view.
* It occurs in the child’s actual home. Due to the aspect that the internet is universal, being bullied online means that children can be bullied in their own homes. This could cause children to feel unsafe where ever there is a computer, with the inclusion of their own homes.
* Anonymity is another issue. Cyberbullies tend to sometimes hide behind email addresses and nick names that don’t identify who they are.

Today's generation is more openly connected than any other that came before it. All thanks to the Internet and Digital Technology. Our kids understand a great deal about the internet and cell phones. They spend a large part of their day on both of these devices, maintaining a constant connection with the world. They don't ever want to lose either one, so they expertly hide any evidence of internet bullying from us while keeping their anxieties a well-guarded secret.

Unfortunately, today's parents have far too many responsibilities to attend to and they often feel...
• They are no longer connecting with their kids, especially when it comes to their online activities and exchanges.
• They are unfamiliar with the new tools and technology that kids are spending so much time on.
• Like most parents, they have absolutely no idea what their kids are experiencing these days.
• They wouldn't know exactly what to do about cyber bullying when it finally strikes their home.

Some frightening statistics we should be aware of:
• 1 in 7 children who regularly use the Internet is sexually solicited
• 1 in 11 is harassed or threatened
• 31 percent receive an aggressive sexual solicitation or are asked to meet
• 79 percent of solicitations occur in the child's home
• 56 percent of children do not tell anyone about the solicitations

Internet tips for parents:
• Explore the Internet with your children. It’s the best way to know what they see and to help them find kid-friendly sites.
• Once you’re at the sites remind kids to be careful in giving out their real name, address or other personal information in a chat room, to online pen pals or on electronic bulletin boards.
• Use an online filter. Most Internet providers offer a filter to their customers. If they don’t, consider purchasing software that can filter their activity when you’re not around.
• Set online rules (when, why and with whom present) and let your children know that using the Internet for personal reasons is a privilege and not a right.
• Teach your children the meaning of private and personal – even family – information. Encourage them to post messages only with your permission and supervision.
• Show your child the difference between advertisement and entertainment. A young child may not realize when a favorite cartoon is gathering market data or trying to sell them something.

Internet Resources for Parents
• http://www.familyguidebook.com – A Family Guide to the Internet.
• http://www.getnetwise.com - A resource for parents to educate themselves and their children about how to use the Internet safely. They provide information on filtering software and recommend safe web sites for children of all ages.
• http://www.cyberangels.org - An Internet safety organization with a mission to be a cyberspace neighborhood watch and to fight Internet crime.
• http://www.protectkids.com – A site dedicated to protecting children on the Internet and educating parents.
• http://www.netsmartz.org – A comprehensive website full of information, suggestions, websites, and tips for Internet safety.
• http://www.cybersmartcurriculum.org/ - A free K-8 curriculum empowering students to use the Internet safely, responsibly and effectively.

Know What Your Kids Are Saying-The New Digital Language-To Protect Your Kids, Speak Their Language
Whether it's text messaging, e-mails, or in chat rooms, young people have developed a digital language all their own. Do you know what your kids are saying online? Internet predators do. Below are some acronyms that are being used by young people today, and what you see will surprise you!

121 One To One
IWALU I Will Always Love You
PA Parent Alert
A/S/L? Age, Sex, Location
KOC Kiss On Cheek
PAL Parents Are Listening
CID Crying In Disgrace
KOL Kiss On Lips
PANB Parents Are Near By
CRBT Crying Real Big Tears
LMIRL Lets Meet In Real Life
POS Parents Over Shoulder
F2F Face To Face
NIFOC Nude If Front Of Computer
SWAK Sealed With A Kiss
FUD Fear, Uncertainty And Doubt
NP Nosy parents or No Problem
TAW Teachers Are Watching
ILU I Love You
OLL Online Love
WTGP Want To Go Private?
IPN I'm Posting Nude
P911 My parents are coming!
TOS Teacher Over Shoulder
WUF Where Are You From?
LOL Laughing out loud
YBS You’ll Be Sorry

Source: National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, US

You always want to make absolutely sure that you're doing everything you can to protect your kids, especially when it comes to bullying. Things aren't the same, simple way they used to be. Now, instead of just being confined to the schoolyard, bullying has found a new way to torment your kids by following them everywhere they go... even at home when you think they're safe. That's because bullying and harassment have been fully modernized and supercharged, and they're much more dangerous now than ever before. Parents, knowing very little about this secretive problem, are struggling to help their kids cope with cyber bullying.

It's time to learn about what's really going on in your home. Find out what it really takes to be sure your kids are safe from internet harassment. Help them find a way out of this nightmare, before things get totally out of control. Computers, cell phones, and the internet are becoming very important aspects of our kid's lives. It opens up a whole new world of communication and learning tools for them, but how do we make sure that they're safe? All this new technology has given bullies even greater power to victimize our kids. That old rhyme, "sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me", wasn't helpful to you back then, and it's even less helpful to today's youth still struggling to gain acceptance with friends while also having to deal with aggressive online bullying.


Recent studies have shown us that 13% of teens have already received threatening emails and text messages.
Over 15% of teens say they've had their private conversations posted online for all to see.
Over 13% of teens have had false rumors spread about them somewhere online.
The situation is already pretty bad, and it continues to grow worse every day like cancer spreading through the body. Internet Bullying is turning millions of kids and their families into helpless victims of online harassment. This sad story is being repeated in homes all over the world, so let's not let yours be the next. Most parents are completely unaware of the potential harm their kids may suffer. They clearly have no idea what this problem is or what their kids are dealing with. They don't know enough about the technology or where to get expert help. They don't think the problem of cyber bullying is bad enough to worry about yet. It's bad alright, and quickly getting worse. With so many responsibilities on their plate, they don't have the time.

The Splashes Of Life

A Sioux Indian story... My grandfather took me to the fish pond on the farm when I was about seven, and he told me to throw a stone into the water. He told me to watch the circles created by the stone. Then he asked me to think of myself as that stone person. "You may create lots of splashes in your life but the waves that come from those splashes will disturb the peace of all your fellow creatures," he said. "Remember that you are responsible for what you put in your circle and that circle will also touch many other circles. You will need to live in a way that allows the good that comes from your circle to send the peace of that goodness to others. The splash that comes from anger or jealousy will send those feelings to other circles. You are responsible for both." That was the first time I realized each person creates the inner peace or discord that flows out into the world. We cannot create world peace if we are riddled with inner conflict, hatred, doubt, or anger. We radiate the feelings and thoughts that we hold inside, whether we speak them or not. Whatever is splashing around inside of us is spilling out into the world, creating beauty or discord with all other circles of life. Remember the eternal wisdom: WHATEVER YOU FOCUS ON EXPANDS...

Shake it off!!!

One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey.

He invited all his neighbours to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone's amazement he quieted down. A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw.

With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up. As the farmer's neighbours continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon,everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!

MORAL :

Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a steppingstone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up.

Remember the five simple rules to be happy:

1. Free your heart from hatred - Forgive.

2. Free your mind from worries - Most never happen.

3. Live simply and appreciate what you have.

4. Give more.

5. Expect less.

You have two choices...smile and close this page, or pass this along
to someone else to spread the fun. I know what I did!!

Never Loose Hope


If you can look at the sunset and smile,
then you still have hope...

If you can find beauty in the colors of a small flower,
then you still have hope...

If you can find pleasure in the movement of a butterfly,
then you still have hope...

If the smile of a child can still warm your heart,
then you still have hope...

If you can see the good in other people,
then you still have hope...

If the rain breaking on a roof top can still lull you to sleep,
then you still have hope...

If the sight of a rainbow still makes you stop and stare in wonder,
then you still have hope...

If the soft fur of a favored pet still feels pleasant under your fingertips,
then you still have hope...

If you meet new people with a trace of excitement and optimism,
then you still have hope...

If you give people the benefit of a doubt,
then you still have hope...

If you still offer your hand in friendship to others
that have touched your life, then you still have hope...

If receiving an unexpected card or letter still brings
a pleasant surprise, then you still have hope...

If the suffering of others still fills you with pain and frustration,
then you still have hope...

If you refuse to let a friendship die, or accept that it must end,
then you still have hope...

If you look forward to a time or place of quiet and reflection,
then you still have hope...

If you still buy the ornaments, put up the Christmas tree or cook the
turkey,
then you still have hope...

If you still watch love stories or want the endings to be happy,
then you still have hope...

If you can look to the past and smile,
then you still have hope....

If, when faced with the bad, when told everything is futile, you can still
look up and end the conversation with the phrase... yeah....BUT.. Then you still
have hope...

Hope is such a marvelous thing. It bends, it twists, it sometimes hides, but
rarely does it break... It sustains us when nothing else can... It gives us
reason to continue and courage to move ahead, when we tell ourselves we'd
rather give in...

Hope puts a smile on our face when the heart cannot manage... Hope puts our
feet on the path when our eyes cannot see it... Hope moves us to act when our
souls are confused of the direction....

Hope is a wonderful thing, something to be cherished and nurtured, and
something that will refresh us in return... And it can be found in each of us,
and it can bring light into the darkest of places...
Never lose hope...

We lived a Quality Life...

CONGRATULATIONS TO ALL MY FRIENDS WHO WERE BORN IN THE
1920's, 30's 40's, 50's, 60's and 70's!

First, we survived being born to mothers who smoked and/or drank while they carried us and lived in houses made of asbestos.

They took aspirin, ate blue cheese, raw egg products, loads of bacon and processed meat, tuna from a can, and didn't get tested for diabetes or cervical cancer.

Then after that trauma, our baby cribs were covered with bright colored lead-based paints.

We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, doors or cabinets and when we rode our bikes, we had no helmets or shoes, not to mention, the risks we took hitchhiking.

As children, we would ride in cars with no seat belts or air bags.

Riding in the back of a Bakkie on a warm day was always a special treat.

We drank water from the garden hose and NOT from a bottle.
Take away food was limited to fish and chips, no pizza shops, McDonalds, KFC, Steers, Nandos.

Even though all the shops closed at 6.00pm and didn't open on the weekends, somehow we didn't starve to death!
We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle and NO ONE actually died from this.

We could collect old drink bottles and cash them in at the corner store and buy Chappies, Wilson's Toffees, Wicks Bubble Gum and some crackers to blow up frogs with.

We ate cupcakes, white bread and real butter and drank soft drinks with sugar in it, but we weren't overweight because......

WE WERE ALWAYS OUTSIDE PLAYING!!

We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on.

No one was able to reach us all day. And we were O.K.

We would spend hours building our go-carts out of scraps and then ride down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes. We built tree houses and cubby houses and played in river beds with matchbox cars.

We did not have Playstations, Nintendo's, X-boxes, no video games at all, no 99 channels on DSTV, no video tape movies, no surround sound, no mobile phones, no personal computers, no Internet or Internet chat rooms..........WE HAD FRIENDS and we went outside and found them!

We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth and there were no Lawsuits from these accidents.

Only girls had pierced ears!

We ate worms and mud pies made from dirt, and the worms did not live in us forever.

You could only buy Easter Eggs and Hot Cross Buns at Easter time.......no really!

We were given pellet guns and catapults for our 10th birthdays,

We rode bikes or walked to a friend's house and knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just yelled for them!

Mum didn't have to go to work to help dad make ends meet!

RUGBY and CRICKET had tryouts and not everyone made the team. Those who didn't had to learn to deal with disappointment. Imagine that!! Getting into the team was based on MERIT AND NOT DUE TO BLACKMAIL, THREATS AND GUILT FROM THE PAST..... strange but true!

Our teachers used to belt us with big sticks and leather staps and bully's always ruled the playground at school.

The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law was unheard of. They actually sided with the law!

Our parents didn't invent stupid names for their kids like "Kiora" and "Blade" and "Ridge" and "Vanilla"

This generation has produced some of the best risk-takers, problem solvers and inventors ever! The past 70 years have been an explosion of innovation and new ideas.

We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned HOW TO DEAL WITH IT ALL!

And YOU are one of them! CONGRATULATIONS!

You might want to share this with others who have had the luck to grow up as kids, before the lawyers and the government regulated our lives for our own good.

And while you are at it, forward it to your kids so they will know how brave their parents were.

PS -The big type is because your eyes are not too good at your age anymore.

This is a mail received by a friend of mine from his friend, me from an old friend of mine who had left for USA since college, in India. The mail is nostalgic. Good old days! The words have changed to American culture, but the experience is Universal I suppose. I hope you will like it.

Regards

Sailesh R. Sheth

TRUE LOVE STORY-MUST READ

A girl and guy were speeding over 100 mph down the road on a motorcycle.
This is the conversation they had...
Girl: Slow down. I'm scared.
Guy: No this is fun!
Girl: No it's not. Please, we're going too fast!
Guy: Then tell me you love me and I will slow down.
Girl: Fine, I love you. Slow down!
Guy: Now give me a BIG hug.
*Girl hugs him*
Guy: Can you take my helmet off and put it on? Its bugging me.
In the newspaper the next day: A motorcycle had crashed into a building
because of break failure. Two people were in the accident, but only one survived.
The truth was that halfway down the road, the guy realized that his breaks went
out, but he didn't want to let the girl know. Instead, he had her say she loved him
and felt her hug one last time, then had her wear his helmet so that she would live
even though it meant that he would die.

"Love is not selfish, Love is not being happy it is to make happy to whom you love
even if you are unhappy with it. For you see, no one really knows what tommorow
holds in store for you, you might not live to see the next day and sometimes you
have to tell someone something, but run out of time to do so. So take a few minutes
out of your time to tell someone you love them because you really never know if this
is the last day of your life.

Thanks to Our Mother

Dear all,

This is how most of us thank? our mother!

When you came into the world, she held you in her arms.

You thanked her by wailing like a banshee.

When you were 1 year old, she fed you and bathed you.
You thanked her by crying all night long.

When you were 2 years old, she taught you to walk.

You thanked her by running away when she called.

When you were 3 years old, she made all your meals with love.

You thanked her by tossing your plate on the floor.

When you were 4 years old, she gave you some crayons.

You thanked her by coloring the dining room table.

When you were 5 years old, she dressed you for the holidays.

You thanked her by plopping into the nearest pile of mud.

When you were 6 years old, she walked you to school.

You thanked her by screaming, "I'M NOT GOING!"

When you were 7 years old, she bought you a baseball.
You thanked her by throwing it through the next-door-neighbor' s window.

When you were 8 years old, she handed you an ice cream.

You thanked her by dripping it all over your lap.

When you were 9 years old, she paid for music lessons.

You thanked her by never even bothering to practice.

When you were 10 years old, she drove you all day, from soccer to gymnastics to one birthday party after another.
You thanked her by jumping out of the car and never looking back.

When you were 11 years old, she took you and your friends to the movies.

You thanked her by asking to sit in a different row.

When you were 12 years old, she warned you not to watch certain TV shows.
You thanked her by waiting until she left the house.

Those teenage years -

When you were 13, she suggested a haircut that was becoming.

You thanked her by telling her she had no taste.

When you were 14, she paid for a month away at summer camp.

You thanked her by forgetting to write a single letter.

When you were 15, she came home from work, looking for a hug.

You thanked her by having your bedroom door locked.

When you were 16, she taught you how to driver her car.

You thanked her by taking it every chance you could.

When you were 17, she was expecting an important call.

You thanked her by being on the phone all night.

When you were 18, she cried at your high school graduation.

You thanked her by staying out partying until dawn.

Growing old and gray -

When you were 19, she paid for your college tuition, drove you to campus, carried your bags.

You thanked her by saying good-bye outside the dorm so you wouldn't be embarrassed in front of your friends.

When you were 20, she asked whether you were seeing anyone.

You thanked her by saying, "It's none of your business."

When you were 21, she suggested certain careers for your future.

You thanked her by saying, "I don't want to be like you."

When you were 22, she hugged you at your college graduation.

You thanked her by asking whether she could pay for a trip to Europe.

When you were 23, she gave you furniture for your first apartment.

You thanked her by telling your friends it was ugly.

When you were 24, she met your fiancé and asked about your plans for the future.

You thanked her by glaring and growling, "Muuhh-ther, please!"

When you were 25, she helped to pay for your wedding, and she cried and told you how deeply she loved you.

You thanked her by moving halfway across the country.

When you were 30, she called with some advice on the baby.

You thanked her by telling her, "Things are different now."

When you were 40, she called to remind you of an relative's birthday.

You thanked her by saying you were "really busy right now."

When you were 50, she fell ill and needed you to take care of her.

You thanked her by reading about the burden parents become to their children.

And then, one day, she quietly moved. And everything you never did came crashing down like thunder. Let us take a moment of the time just to pay tribute/show appreciation to the SPECIAL person called MOTHER though some may not say it openly to their mother. There's no substitute for her. Cherished every single moment. Though at times she may not be the best of friends, may not agree to our thoughts, she is still your mother!!! She will be there for you...to listen to your woes, your bragging, your frustrations, etc. Ask yourself. have you put aside enough time for her, to listen to her "blues" of working in the kitchen, her tiredness??? Be tactful, loving and still show her due respect though you may have a different view from her.

Once gone, only fond memories of the past and also regrets will be left .....

Unseen Love . . .

Please read and be blessed by this as I was...

The passengers on the bus watched sympathetically as the attractive
young woman with the white cane made her way carefully up the steps.
She paid the driver and, using her hands to feel the location of the seats,
walked down the aisle and found the seat he'd told her was empty.
Then she settled in, placed her briefcase on her lap and rested her cane
against her leg. It had been a year since Susan, thirty-four, became blind.
Due to a medical misdiagnosis she had been rendered sightless, and she
was suddenly thrown into a world of darkness, anger, frustration and
self-pity. Once a fiercely independent woman, Susan now felt condemned
by this terrible twist of fate to become a powerless, helpless burden on
everyone around her. "How could this have happened to me?" she would
plead, her heart knotted with anger. But no matter how much she cried or
ranted or prayed, she knew the painful truth that her sight was never going
to return. A cloud of depression hung over Susan's once optimistic spirit.
Just getting through each day was an exercise in frustration and exhaustion.

And all she had to cling to was her husband Mark. Mark was an Air
Force officer and he loved Susan with all of his heart. When she first
lost her sight, he watched her sink into despair and was determined to
help his wife gain the strength and confidence she needed to become
independent again. Mark's military back-ground had trained him well
to deal with sensitive situations, and yet he knew this was the most
difficult battle he would ever face.


Finally, Susan felt ready to return to her job, but how would she
get there? She used to take the bus, but was now too frightened to get
around the city by herself. Mark volunteered to drive her to work
each day, even though they worked at opposite ends of the city. At first,
this comforted Susan and fulfilled Mark's need to protect his
sightless wife who was so insecure about performing the slightest task.
Soon, however, Mark realized that this arrangement wasn't working-it was
hectic and costly. Susan is going to have to start taking the bus
again, he admitted to himself. But just the thought of mentioning it to her
made him cringe. She was still so fragile, so angry. How would she
react?


Just as Mark predicted, Susan was horrified at the idea of taking
the bus again. "I'm blind!" she responded bitterly. "How am I supposed
to know where I'm going? I feel like you're abandoning me." Mark's
heart broke to hear these words, but he knew what had to be done. He
promised Susan that each morning and evening he would ride the bus with her,
for as long as it took, until she got the hang of it. And that is
exactly what happened. For two solid weeks, Mark, military uniform and all,
accompanied Susan to and from work each day. He taught her how to
rely on her other senses, specifically her hearing, to determine where
she was and how to adapt to her new environment. He helped her befriend
the bus drivers who could watch out for her, and save her a seat. He
made her laugh, even on those not-so-good days when she would trip
exiting the bus, or drop her briefcase. Each morning they made the journey
together, and Mark would take a cab back to his office. Although
this routine was even more costly and exhausting than the previous one,
Mark knew it was only a matter of time before Susan would be able to ride
the bus on her own. He believed in her, in the Susan he used to know
before she'd lost her sight, who wasn't afraid of any challenge and who
would never, ever quit. Finally, Susan decided that she was ready to try
the trip on her own.


Monday morning arrived, and before she left, she threw her arms
around Mark, her temporary bus riding companion, her husband, and her best
friend. Her eyes filled with tears of gratitude for his loyalty, his
patience, his love. She said good-bye, and for the first time, they
went their separate ways. Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday ... Each
day on her own went perfectly, and Susan never felt better. She was
doing it! She was going to work all by herself!


On Friday morning, Susan took the bus to work as usual. As she was
paying for her fare to exit the bus, the driver said, "Boy, I sure
envy you." Susan wasn't sure if the driver was speaking to her or not.
After all, who on earth would ever envy a blind woman who had struggled
just to find the courage to live for the past year? Curious, she asked
the driver, "Why do you say that you envy me?" The driver answered, "You
know, every morning for the past week, a fine looking gentleman in a
military uniform has been standing across the corner watching you
when you get off the bus. He makes sure you cross the street safely and
he watches you until you enter your office building. Then he blows you
a kiss, gives you a little salute and walks away. You are one lucky
lady."


Tears of happiness poured down Susan's cheeks. For, although She couldn't
physically see him, she had always felt Mark's presence.
She was lucky, so lucky, for he had given her a gift more powerful than
sight, a gift she didn't need to see to believe-the gift of love
that can bring light where there had been darkness.


God watches over us in just the same way. We may not know He is
present. We may not be able to see His face, but He is there
nonetheless.


Be blessed in this thought:
"God Loves You - even when you are not looking."

Eight Lies of a Mother....

The story began when I was a child; I was born as a son of a poor family. Even for eating, we often got lack of food. Whenever the time for eating, mother often gave me her portion of rice. While she was removing her rice into my bowl, she would say “Eat this rice, son. I’m not hungry”. That was Mother's First Lie.

When I was getting to grow up, the persevering mother gave her spare time for fishing in a river near our house, she hoped that from the fishes she got, she could gave me a little bit nutritious food for my growth. After fishing, she would cook the fishes to be a fresh fish soup, which raised my appetite. While I was eating the soup, mother would sit beside me and eat the rest meat of fish, which was still on the bone of the fish I ate. My heart was touched when I saw it. I then used my chopstick and gave the other fish to her. But she immediately refused it and said “Eat this fish, son. I don’t really like fish.” That was Mother's Second Lie.

Then, when I was in Junior High School, to fund my study, mother went to an economic enterprise to bring some used-matches boxes that would be stuck in. It gave her some money for covering our needs. As the winter came, I woke up from my sleep and looked at my mother who was still awoke, supported by a little candlelight and within her perseverance she continued the work of sticking some used-matches box. I said, “Mother, go to sleep, it’s late, tomorrow morning you still have to go for work.” Mother smiled and said “Go to sleep, dear. I’m not tired.” That was Mother's Third Lie.

At the time of final term, mother asked for a leave from her work in order to accompany me. While the daytime was coming and the heat of the sun was starting to shine, the strong and persevering mother waited for me under the heat of the sun’s shine for several hours. As the bell rang, which indicated that the final exam had finished, mother immediately welcomed me and poured me a glass of tea that she had prepared before in a cold bottle. The very thick tea was not as thick as my mother’s love, which was much thicker. Seeing my mother covering with perspiration, I at once gave her my glass and asked her to drink too. Mother said “Drink, son. I’m not thirsty!”. That was Mother's Fourth Lie.

That was Mother's Fourth Lie.After the death of my father because of illness, my poor mother had to play her role as a single parent. By held on her former job, she had to fund our needs alone. Our family’s life was more complicated. No days without sufferance. Seeing our family’s condition that was getting worse, there was a nice uncle who lived near my house came to help us, either in a big problem and a small problem. Our other neighbors who lived next to us saw that our family’s life was so unfortunate, they often advised my mother to marry again. But mother, who was stubborn, didn’t care to their advice, she said “I don’t need love.” That was Mother's Fifth Lie.

After I had finished my study and then got a job, it was the time for my old mother to retire. But she didn’t want to; she was sincere to go to the marketplace every morning, just to sell some vegetable for fulfilling her needs. I, who worked in the other city, often sent her some money to help her in fulfilling her needs, but she was stubborn for not accepting the money. She even sent the money back to me. She said “I have enough money.” That was Mother's Sixth Lie.

After graduated from Bachelor Degree, I then continued my study to Master Degree. I took the degree, which was funded by a company through a scholarship program, from a famous University in America. I finally worked in the company. Within a quite high salary, I intended to take my mother to enjoy her life in America. But my lovely mother didn’t want to bother her son, she said to me “I’m not used to.” That was Mother's Seventh Lie.

After entering her old age, mother got a flank cancer and had to be hospitalized. I, who lived in miles away and across the ocean, directly went home to visit my dearest mother. She lied down in weakness on her bed after having an operation. Mother, who looked so old, was staring at me in deep yearn. She tried to spread her smile on her face; even it looked so stiff because of the disease she held out. It was clear enough to see how the disease broke my mother’s body, thus she looked so weak and thin. I stared at my mother within tears flowing on my face. My heart was hurt, so hurt, seeing my mother on that condition. But mother, with her strength, said “Don’t cry, my dear. I’m not in pain.” That was Mother's Eight Lie.

After saying her eighth lie, my dearest mother closed her eyes forever...
This is the heart of a Mother...

Story of the Blind Girl..

There was a blind girl who hated herself because of her blindness. Not only did she hate herself but she hated everyone else, except her loving boyfriend. He was always there for her. She said that if she could only see the world, she would marry her boyfriend. One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her and then she could see everything, including her boyfriend. Her boyfriend asked her, "now that you can see the world, will you marry me?"
The girl was shocked when she saw that her boyfriend was blind too, and refused to marry him. Her boyfriend walked away in tears, and later wrote a letter to her that simply said. "Just take care of my eyes dear." This is how the human brain changes when our status changes. Only a few remember what life was like before and even fewer remember who to thank for always being there even when times were painfully unbearable. Life is a gift.
Today before you think of saying an unkind word - Think of someone who can't speak. Before you complain about the taste of your food - Think of someone who has nothing to eat. Before you complain about your husband or wife - Think of someone who's crying out to God for a companion.
Today before you complain about life - Think of someone who went too early to heaven. Before you complain about your children - Think of someone who desires children but is barren. Before you argue about your dirty house -- someone didn't clean or sweep --Think of the people who are living in the streets. Before whining about the distance you drive - Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet. And when you are tired and complain about your job - Think of the unemployed, the disabled and those who wished they had your job. But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another - remember that not one of us is purely guilt free.
And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down - Put a smile on your face and thank God you're alive and still around.
Life is a gift: live it, enjoy it, celebrate it, and fulfill it. Relish the moment. It may not come around again.

Discover the 90/10 Principle.

It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).
What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.
What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us.
We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic.
We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.
How? ……….By your reaction.
You cannot control a red light. but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened.
What happens next will be determined by how you react.
You curse.
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.
Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.

After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home. When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter. Why? ….
Because of how you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is “D".
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why?
Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you!
React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them?
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
You are told you lost your job.
Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.
The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on.
Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.
The result?
Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.
It CAN change your life!!!
Enjoy….
Author: Stephen Covey

For all the moms in the world...

This has been around before - but well worth the read - for all you moms and those who have wives...
Mom and Dad were watching TV when Mom said, "I'm tired, and it's getting late. I think I'll go to bed."
She went to the kitchen to make sandwiches for the next day's lunches. Rinsed out the popcorn bowls, took meat out of the freezer for supper the following evening, checked the cereal box levels, filled the sugar container, put spoons and bowls on the table and prepared the coffee pot for brewing the next morning. She then put some wet clothes in the dryer, put a load of clothes into the washer, ironed a shirt and secured a loose button. She picked up the game pieces left on the table, put the phone back on the charger and put the telephone book into the drawer. She watered the plants, emptied a wastebasket and hung up a towel to dry. She yawned and stretched and headed for the bedroom. She stopped by the desk and wrote a note to the teacher, counted out some cash for the field trip, and pulled a text book out from hiding under the chair. She signed a birthday card for a friend, addressed and stamped the envelope and wrote a quick list for the grocery store. She put both near her purse. Mom then washed her face with 3 in 1 cleanser, put on her night solution & age fighting moisturizer, brushed and flossed her teeth and filed her nails. Dad called out, "I thought you were going to bed." "I'm on my way," she said. She put some water into the dog's dish and put the cat outside, then made sure the doors were locked and the patio light was on. She looked in on each of the kids and turned out their bedside lamps and TV's, hung up a shirt, threw some dirty socks into the hamper, and had a brief conversation with the one up still doing homework. In her own room, she set the alarm; laid out clothing for the next day, straightened up the shoe rack. She added three things to her 6 most important things to do list. She said her prayers, and visualized the accomplishment of her goals.
About that time, Dad turned off the TV and announced to no one in particular. "I'm going to bed."And he did...without another thought.
Anything extraordinary here?
This is just an early appreciation for all the mothers in our lives.